Frequently Asked Questions and the Answers


Q.  I hate the idea of talking about our problems in front of a group. Is there another way?

A. Except for a brief introduction, you will not share with the larger group unless yo so choose. The two of you will have private time to address your issues using new skills.

Q. My partner doesn’t think any of our problems relate back to childhood. Can we still benefit from the workshop?

A.  Absolutely.  The connections between our current frustrations and childhood hurts is not clear to many people. Whether or not we believe it consciously, our unconscious mind definitely connects the two.  Imnago tools will work when used consistently, with or without a belief in th elink between adult relatinsip issues and childhood hurts.

Q.  We have waited so long to seek help with our problems. Is it too late for us?

A.  It is never too late to learn the real cause of your problems.   You will learn key concepts that replace the pain of a difficult relationship with knowledge, skill and hope.  Whether you ultimately decide to stay together to use your new tools to heal and grow or to your separate ways, what you learn in one weekend will forever alter the way you view your relationships.  And if you are parents, the skills you learn in the workshop will likely prove to be the greatest gift you ever give your children>

Q.  What does IMAGO mean?

A.  Imago is the Latin word for image. Each of us carries a composite image of the best and worst traits of our primary caregivers from childhood deep in our unconscious mind.  It is a blueprint of people who love us and has great significance in our choice of a committed partner.

Q.  We are getting along well but want to avoid past mistakes.  Is it too son for us to attend the workshop?

A.  Couples at all stages of relationship find tremendous healing in learning that conflict and frustration are predictable and even necessary aspects of a committed partnership.  Learning essential relational tools before you begin to have conflict and frustration is the best way to ensure a lifelong, fulfilling relationship.

Q. My fiancé and I are engaged to be married and I am wondering if this workshop is right for us?

A. This is the perfect time! (Please see answer right above).

Q.  My partner doesn’t think the he has a problem but rather that I am the one with the problem and if I would get “fixed” everything would be fine. How can the workshop help us?

A.  It has been my experience that the workshop is very helpful in taking  the blame out relationships. Once you and your partner understand what the conflict is really about, it becomes about understanding and empathy, rather than blame. The tools and insights you learn in the workshop help you see your partner and yourself in a new light.